Suddenly Separated in VA -- need your help

[mimivac]

I think it just takes time and working at it everyday.

Accepting that no matter what you do you can't change their course, you can only change yours.

At the one month mark for me, I spent a lot of time in bed watching mindless hours of TV. Really. Of course one of my issues was depression, so the bomb exacerbated that.

Doing something for myself everyday, no matter how small.

Getting active in making myself a better person. Celebrating little accomplishments in that journey.

One of the first signs: I was able to focus more on myself and less on trying to figure him out.

Thanks, bug. I guess I am detaching in fits and starts. One day I'm really focusing on myself and not giving a fig about how H looked at me the other day, or how fast he tried to get off the phone with me, etc. Then, the next day I feel like I am going insane analyzing why he snuggled with me in the morning, but then didn't kiss me goodbye before getting on the metro. Argh!! I have been told to take the long view and I am trying to keep that in mind. My dream scenario would be a state where I am actively GALing, LRTing, appreciating the positive steps, but not interpreting or obsessing about anything else. Long way to go.

Mimi

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M:37; H:37; M: 10 years; T:13 years; no kids.
Bomb: 1/08/12
Separated: 1/18/12