She keeps accusing me of looking at the living room when I walk in now and shaking my head as though I am upset it's a mess. But I can't see it as she accused me again yesterday but I was very concious of it and kept my head very straight and I know I didn't shake my head.
She knows you, your reactions. expectations, etc...both conscious and unconscious...though you try to not give a reaction, our spouses know us too well, and probably KNOW we are trying to NOT react, thus see a reaction, subtle as it is.
I obsessed about my sitch for months...it takes time to truely make progress detaching...I am much better at it now, and my "built-in" conscious and sub-conscious reactions have changed or dissipated. And my W knows them VERY, VERY well...and she has noticed when not in MLC alien mode.
I still get caught up sometimes and re-attached....I try to change my thoughts to something else, imagine a stop sign and turn signal for them...
It gets easier with practice and time...I found then GAL the best way to move detachment along...I have 5 REI free events to attend next month, working out, taking kids places...or just escaping with a good book or going into work and streaming a movie or show.
Also, try to listen to your intuition...(that is hard for me alot of the time, I am very cognitive oriented)...what is it saying? It may be wrong, or you may have too much mind/ego interfering...but listen...it will most likely tell you the truth. Then act "as if" all is going to be okay, or is okay...
Just my .03
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
