DG, I posted something similiar in Val's thread. After reading yours.... I am looking for a DB way of saying you've done enough, you've hurt too much, frack that AH perhaps this fits.
Awhile back in another thread on this board my conception of self focus was challenged. Not overtly, rather the posters response caused some introspection.
The thought was if I am dark for me, GAL for me, changing for me then isn’t all the focus on self counterproductive to focusing on the relationship. My truth in my sitch is the relationship no longer exists. It died months before the bomb, and the antagonistic run up to the bomb served only my partners justifications for her decision.
Her delays in moving forward were IMO representative of her fear of change. The anger and venom she spewed represented that fear serving to further justify her decision in her mind. Her delays were also a gift of time to me. Not to rescue the relationship, rather to rescue self. Of course I held out hope that each delay represented an opportunity to say or do just the right thing. These were false hopes and wasted energy so bent to her course was she.
What I am attempting to say is if you are 70 to 80 percent sure you have done what you could and remained true to yourself and your directions then go forward without regret. Focus on you and what brings you bliss. Keep on keeping on, to borrow a phrase.
He will act as he has; he will spew what he spews for it is all part of his path that he must walk as he does. He cannot be controlled. This is his part, his role in this drama until he decides to change.
None of us will perceive a brighter future if we are focusing upon the past. Face forward, lean in, move, your future is ahead of you.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
