treading water continues...

[ces67]

Hey NH, we all fall off the wagon. "Fall down 7. Get up 8" Don't beat yourself up too bad. Your struggle is common and one of the most difficult.

I'm struggling with the reality of an OM with my W as well. Its extremely hard to let it go and trust that improving myself will be a better course than forcing my W to see how she hurts me and to change. I struggle between wanting "justice" and wanting to save my marriage.

This woman is no competition for you. Whatever your H may find appealing is a fantasy that will come crashing down at some point.

As hard as it is, work on you and let your H work at his pace. You can't rush him. Sounds like he's making some positive moves. Patience is critical and forgiveness is essential to keep things moving in a good direction. But both require a constant and determined choice on your part. And there most certainly will be obstacles from both of you.

As with much of DB, it counter-intuitive but it is the way you can fight for your M.

Good luck!