Detach, detach, detach. I know...but is this normal behavior? I know it is MLC stuff but do I just sit by and watch? S16 left to roam around our town while Dad is doing who knows what.
What else can you do? Actually, I would say don't even watch-stay as far away as you can and allow him to spin.
As far as you kids are concerned, you aren't responsible for your H's relationship with his children. If he screws it up, he screws is up. It's so hard to see our children hurt, especially by those who are supposed to love them the most.
But you can control only yourself so you can either spin out of control by being caught in his orbit or you can move out of range and be the stable parent for your kids. Watch them for signs of depression and get them help if needed. Yes, they're no longer little impressionable kids but this sh!t throws them off balance.
Thanks for breaking your post up, much easier to read!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
