I think you're right, Michael but don't let it consume you.

I found this:

The RAIN model by Tara Brach
Recognize we are triggered (big one!)
Acknowledge the trigger (without shame/blame) by just saying "yes, anger, hurt, fear..." - naming whatever is alive in the body.
Investigate with gentleness what is needed to calm the triggered emotional state. What is the unmet need.
Non-identify with the triggered state by cultivating a loving internal witness. Reminding ourselves that we are not the emotion or thought - it is information that is coming to us; needing attention so it can pass through us.
Basically - I see this as letting calming love - RAIN over us when we are powerfully triggered.

For me it's been helpful to have steps to follow when these triggers happen. It allows me to work through the emotion rather than have it take over and create chaos in my mind.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss