That [censored], Wedge, to have them prefer one house over the other. Look deeper though... kids give their meaning with the images and thoughts that come out in a random order. Rather than focus on if one place is better, focus on whether they enjoyed their time with you.
My kids really aren't liking the separation/divorce. I remind them one day their mother might feel comfortable to go out for a special occasion together, but their family is still a whole. Divorce doesn't break a family - it separates two adults and changes how the family lives.
Isn't it strange that you are getting more trust now that you're divorced?? F* that, eh?
Some of the best days I've ever had in my life with my wife occured near the end of my marriage as I found her opening up for the first time in my marriage. But, it obviously didn't last. Those ups and downs will be part of your and my life, I expect. Days that you look at her and see your wife, your love. Others where you see a hollow shell that has life and may have love, but has chosen not to offer it to you. I wouldn't get wrapped up in the password.
I would suggest that everything that logically allows you to move on and have a better life for you and your kids is what you should be thankful for and work for. When you succeed in getting that thing, enjoy it for the improved life, not for the hope your marriage will come together again.
Hope you have a great sleep so you can wake up to 3 kids that love you, even if they are hurt.
