Where do I go from here

[Wedge5]

So, my ex stopped by today to drop off some clothes for my son's school concert. We talked for a few minutes before she left. The upcoming deployment is stressing her out, I can tell that much. She told me that she plans on getting movers to help her move her stuff. She told me that she feels bad about leaving the kids again. I feel like I am being tested, and failing. I think that my not saying anything supportive about her feeling bad is "more of the same". She said that I was never there for her. I also feel like she wants me to help her move her stuff. If she asks, I will probably help, but I am not going to offer. I don't know if that is the right way to approach this. Part of me doesn't feel sorry for her, she created this situation by divorcing me. But, another part of me wants to do everything to help her. I really wanted to give her a hug today when she was telling me how stressed she is about the deployment, but I didn't. I feel like I am messing this up. I guess I am going to continue with "going gray" and see how it goes. Don't have anything else to lose, I've already lost most of it...