Mimi- Thank you so much for your insights from your therapy, about the mask that they feel they need to put on to protect themselves. It makes a lot of sense.
H came over tonight, thank goodness I hadn't put on my bummy house clothes yet! He actually said: "Sorry, I forgot to text you and let you know I was coming over." It's not monumental, but, at least he remembered we had talked about this before.
He and I chatted while he was gathering his work laptop... about kids and the gym. I asked him how his training was going for the April competition, and he opened up and said that he's getting close to his goal, but probably won't make it. I asked a few questions about what type of things he's been doing to reach his goal (a 180 b/c I'm taking an interest in *his* hobby) I said a few encouraging things about how impressed I am with his dedication, he grinned and glanced at me, then went back to packing his bag. I mentioned about how the baby did at the preschool, and he got a questions mark on his face. "Today was your first day? I thought it was Thursday?" (well, maybe that explains why he didn't wish me luck) He asked a few questions and even had some suggestions- it was like a conversation that we would have always had... it felt natural.
H hugged S6 and made a comment that he's growing everyday, he decided that we needed to start marking it on a doorframe. So he got out a pen and marked the first line with today's date. S6 saw H's bag on his shoulder and asked where he was going and when he was coming back (this is the first time he's said anything to H about him leaving.) H told him that he was staying at [friend's] house and he would be back tomorrow after work.
When he was walking down the driveway, S6 and I were in the doorway, and S6 yelled: "bye daddy".... H waved over his shoulder without turning around. I don't think S6 was upset by that small gesture, but it was like a slap in my face. Who knows, maybe he was crying and could bear to turn around and see him standing there waving.... but he could also just be a jerk.
If anybody wants to... I would recommend going to FB and searching for a person named: Purgatory DB... you might like what you find
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
