The abuse she's referring to is her childhood, and she's lumped me in for good measure. I have taken responsibility for, apologized for, and corrected all my "problems". It's been over 4 years now since I did anything I would consider to be hurtful. Everything since then has been about why we are stuck in this rut.
BITS M: 35 W: 35 T14, M11 D9, S6 ILYBINILY: June 09 Unofficially Separated (long distance): 1/2/11 W came home: 3/17/11 EE: July 2012 Dropped the rope: Oct 2012 Piecing: April 2013 Not piecing: April 2014 Stuck.