deployment to divorce 1

[31nheartbroken]

Well, just as I had expected. He got angry. Said he would just file and I would get served. I said I would talk about the parenting plan, child support, visitation, etc. So, he ended up coming over to get the papers.

He came over, came in, grabbed the papers, said he had a book for S10 and he would give it to me later. Then he said I'll file and you'll get served.

So, I said I thought we were gonna do the child stuff and he said no, don't worry about it so, I said ok and closed the door. About 3 min later he knocked on the door and gave me the book, acted like he was gonna walk away and said he was filing and then asked me why I didn't want to put financial, debts, etc in writing yet.

I just said I was scared and wasn't 100% comfortable with putting the stuff down. Finally, after some anger and irrition on his part he just gave in and did kid stuff.

His mood mellowed out a bit and he relaxed. Asking me for things and thanking me when I would look for them.

Today, I still feel like he's totally done with this M, but he has only seen us for 3 days now. Hopefully, he won't come over for a day or two, give him time to think about us and maybe miss us a little.

Just keep reassuring myself not to give up hope and that he hasn't even gone to the school, so reality hasn't quite started to kick in yet.

OMG, I can tell that I am so very detached though. I look at him and know I love him and know I want him back, but when he walks out of the house without saying goodbye or acknowledging me then drives away, it bothers me slightly, but not enough to interfere with me at all!!

Forgot to mention the random text last night after he left, maybe his goodbye without saying it, he said "just saw a coyote, better watch out for the cats". Normally he acts like he hates the cats. Haven't even seen him pet them when he's been here. Anyway I would think he would just see said coyote and say to himself oh, theres a coyote and go on his merry way.