You asked be before, KD, if I wanted to save my marriage. My answer was yes. But I'd like to clarify. I have a vision of what marriage is supposed to be, ...
OK...
So what is your vision of what marriage is supposed to be...?
Please bear with me and do describe how it would look to you because I would like to discuss that with you.
I believe your M CAN be saved and it doesn't have to be you settling...
I'm going to get my new car today so won't be back till late this eve... take whatever time you need to articulate your thoughts on the M you want to be in...