Well ... I'm back

[ChuckF]

You sound like an empathetic guy, so the heart's in the right place. My first thought is - how are you doing taking care of you? If you're doing well physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially, etc... then you are in a healthy place to love her well. If you're struggling to stay afloat, take some action to get yourself in a better place.

My ears always perk up when I read someone's goal is to "make her feel..." something. We don't have that kind of power, so give yourself some space here. Offering her love, support, and encouragement is healthy. But it is an offer that she may refuse, so don't take it personally. What has felt loving to her in the past? You may want to start there.