Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

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Just got your message....yep it is like living in a vortex. Thanks for lock law. It would escalate things ad infinitum, believe me. He has all the problems you listed above. Infidelity, he even said at one point sex addiction which I beleive though he quickly back pedalled, BIG financial problems and debt because of grandiose lifestyle (I even have marriage counseling notes IN HIS WRITING that I need to STOP talking about debt!), he has an incredibly huge ego, counselor said he has dysthemia (chronic low level depression but since pilots cannot take anti-depressants he refuses to get help though she said go see someone and pay cash because she knows people that do just that), he took some Zoloft 50 mg for about 6 weeks and decided it wasn't working for him even though he KNOWS it takes a while for those things to kick in, his Dad is bipolar and he KNOWS it runs in his family and he told me as he was walking out the door that he wasn't "ready to go down that route yet" and so he flew off to OW in nasty room across town...really I think THAT will kill him. We have super cozy home, hot tub, etc, etc and he is living in a rented room in a yucky neighborhood. THAT will be the straw in my opinion. He is a man of creature comforts and he has NONE of them there. OW lives by herself outside of NYC so THAT could not be the standard of living he thinks he deserves. Any experience with other pilots and DBing? And yes, S16 and S18 know about OW and yes he is expecting him to keep his secret. Yuck, yuck, yuck. It took all I had to ignore his Mom's comment. He never even talks to them so it doesn't matter....it is really pitiful. Yes, MC and IC said he was full of shame and guilt. Is that a good thing? Thanks mishka