Denial....its not just a river in Egypt...

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So, Ive had to start a new thread again...
Thanks girls for all the support...you guys have come to be special friends to me, some of the few people who understand what I have gone through...thanks so much for that!!

S14 is doing much better...we havent really talked alot about the situation this week. I think he is so over it and just wants to move on, but im sure it will come back to hit us over the head. He hasnt met her yet and Im sure that now that its out in the open that will be coming soon. S14 has been avoiding going to Ds house, last Tues he went with his D but said he just wanted to go to park to throw the football..this weekend is his weekend to spend with D although he hasnt in some time, and he is already thinking of ways to get out of it. Its his bday and we are having a party here saturday so he says there is no point going to Ds house...I think he is worried about my STBX having her at the house when he is there so hes avoiding it like the plague....

I have not spoken to STBX in a week, I did not respond the the request to help pay for the ER visit and havent heard a work since. This is the longest we have gone with nc and and it actually has been alot easier on me...no teasing little text from him ....

I did decide to send him a check for my half of the ER visit...I know...but i thought about it for a long time and decided that i needed to do it for my own peace of mind. Its my responsibility as much as his, and its who I am. I didnt do it to make him feel bad or rub it in his face..i just wanted to be able to say that i took care of things from my end and I hope someday he does the same. I cant control how he handles any given situation, but I can control how I handle them. I wanted to do the right thing and it felt right. I just stuck a check in an envelope and mailed it off with no note or anything. Thankfully I can do that since I got the help from my mom, We got a court date and its not until May 2 so I will be in this situation financially for a couple more months at the least..my L had mentioned that maybe the judge would put an emergancy order in place for support and it would start immediantly but I havent heard anything yet, hoping she will call today and give good news on that.

I still cant believe that we are having to go to court over a divorce that HE wanted...and really, we have nothing to fight over, this should be the easiest D on the books and he is dragging it out and making it miserable for all of us. We are going to have to go to mediation over custoday and that is already done and settled...but I have a feeling there are going to be surprises there also....

Who is this person?????


Getting excited about S14s party...should be fun to have a house full of teenagers after it being so quiet around here...ive missed having a house full of people. H is invited and am curiouse how that will go...if he even comes...S14 is so excited, i hope it is everything he wants it to be...loud music and pizza!! yeah!!