Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

[ptcr]

OMG! Heck yes his name is Pat! The man is known to every pilot in this town and as a stay at home mom for 22+ years with NO income I need to protect my bank acount. Quick money list here...paycheck goes into main account where we pay all our bills. Then we have a "household" account for groceries, school expenses (not college), clothing, vacations, boat gas in summer, etc, etc. He is actually not threatening ANYTHING at all, just asks that his "per diem" money (paid by airline for time away from base which has always gone into a joint account at our bank that he uses exclusively for trips) and his living money be "private" so I can't see what the heck he does with it...i.e. OW is an expensive piece of @$$. AND he is asking for a LOT of money AND to be "reimbursed" for vacation if he takes the children since that comes from the household account and shouldn't some of that be his. When he first moved out, his story was he just needed rent money for this room and a little for food. Guess what? MC correct. Shark circling our marriage smells blood in the water with him OUT of the house and she is making demands on him....financial and otherwise. She thinks she is jumping on the money train with a pilot. Bleck.....heard it, seen it, know it. This is why FAs do body shots in the crew lounge. Disgusting. My L, Pat, will depose her if necessary. While i do NOT want a divorce, the thought of her being deposed has brought me a significant amount of joy today. Evil, that is my evil side! I KNOW vengeance is NOT mine, etc. So...when asked earlier about what husband said was bothering him...I thought we were not supposed to believe anything he said. Because, believe me, the things he brought up were NOT even true (fat, not athletic, not enough sex, my desk in the kitchen is a mess, the laundry room bugs him, I coddle the children). In fact, after months of MC he said, the "problem is with me" and it "has nothing to do with you."

So...money question answered? He has fussed and raged about wanting his own account but that is for his "play" money and not anything we use to pay the bills (of which there are plenty due to his entitlement attitude).