The unfortunate answer is that it's up to her to let go of whatever she is holding against you.
There is nothing you can do except be a good husband, and keeping yourself as an attractive option.
She may be physically back, but she is still in the WAW mindset.
I recommend you become the man you want to be. Not the man your wife wants you to be. Find what it is you want to embody and become it. She can then decide if she wants the new you or not.
Think of yourself as being in the dating market. Would you be very marketable? What can you do to bring up your value. What qualities would attract another partner?
You may notice as you change that your W may find herself attracted again to you. She may never not, but at least you'll be a better person for it.
I started lifting weights, dressing better, and being more upbeat. What could you do?
Become a better man, to become a more attractive husband.
Ultimately she is the only one that can decide if she wants to love you, will you look like a dud or a stud when it's her time to decide?
