Ok, so the household expenses are done from a separate account? He is not threatening that account? This is still 'marital funds' by law. It will become part of any settlements in the future. Ask your L what the ramifications are before you agree to anything.

Is your L's first name Pat?

T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!