So it has been sometime since I have been on DB. I seem to turn here whenever things get a little hard for inspiration, ideas and often a smile.
So it is now 2 years since my xH left and it will be 2 years in may since D is finalised.
I feel like I am finally at a point where I can start dating and thinking of a new relationship. After being with my xH since I was 14 and together 22 years I wasnt ready to step into a relationship. Actually it would be my first grown up relationship as I have never dated - so yes I feel like a 37 year old virgin.
I have tried a couple of online dating sites, but so far they have not been successful. I seem to attract all the weirdos. No seriously - one guy said he wanted to lick my shoes.
Anyway there has been someone who lives in my village who I have been attracted to. In fact he is my sons football coach. I dont know him very well but all the parents went out the other night and I ended up back at his place. This was huge for me!! I have never done this before. Anyway I told him that I needed things to go really slowly and he didnt seem to be interested. In fact he called me naive and a goody two shoes. We have texted a couple of times since then but nothing further. I guess I realised that it wasnt going to go anywhere and that we were both on different pages, but am feeling so rejected now again.
My xH married OW quite quickly after our D and the feelings of not being good enough are coming back. I am trying not to be pessimistic about dating but it seems my first experience back in the saddle, so as to speak, is a disaster!
OK, you got me! The title of this thread had me hooked!
My best advice is to steer clear of the dating websites. They really are for hooking up. If that is what you want then go for it, but there are a lot of creeps out there, so be careful.
I think you probably know this, but it is worth repeating. Love will find you when you are truly ready.
Perhaps your next R is with someone who shares the same interest as you do. Are you a member of any clubs, bowling leagues, gym, church, etc.? This is where you may stumble upon the love of your life.
Hang in there and let things happen in their own time. Love will find you again.
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Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
