My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[MrBond]

Prior to the OM I mean. What issues did the two of you have that weren't changed? I know how hard it is to believe that the OM is the problem. My W had an A with her boss, twice her senior. I get that feeling. But once the anger goes away, you're still left alone and bitter.

So what issues came up before that happened? 25yrsmlc is right. What do you intend to do from this point is going to set the tone for how your future and your W's will be.