My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[25yearsmlc]

Mach1,

For compare/contrast/reference purposes sure I think it matters... Two wrongs don't make a right...

I am looking for your primary threads to read but I see you have 278 pages of posts. Could I ask you to link your primaries here possibly?

And yes, please do enlighten me, you were married twice as well? I would like to know your synopsis if you don't mind sharing.

I know that my actions pushed her into the arms of another man, I don't dispute that. HOWEVER, the way the she went into that relationship and the way that she handled effectively after the point she decided she was "done" without making that clear to me, was totally inappropriate.

I don't think any reasonable person could come to a different conclusion if they understand my sitch from start to finish, honestly.

Thank you again for your opinion, it is greatly appreciated.

NONE of this^^^ matters at all these days...

Truly the only relevant question NOW is, what are YOU going to do

to show your wife that marriage to you now and from this day forward,

can be better/different?

IF she doesn't believe things can improve or that you have changed, it won't happen.


Nothing about who is assigned more blame helps you at all, except owning ALL of your issues and staying in your sandbox. Don't get into hers.

You have your own work to do and even now you are straying to look over into her sandbox to critisize her. Don't bother.

Focus on YOUR OWN WORK b/c you are all you control.

Good luck