Sometimes I wonder if I can ever forgive myself for doing what I did. I have let her beat me over the head with it because I have felt so guilty about it. But at some point we need to move past it.
Step one - forgive yourself. Learn from the mistake and take steps to assure that you never make that/those mistakes again. Period.
Step two - Remove the word WE from that statement. She is an adult and ultimately she needs to come to her own own decision to forgive you. She might or might not. However, until you forgive yourself and radiate that attitude, she will/could continue to use it as a button.
