Is she saying she is done? No. But we have not talked about M or R. I have not brought it up. It is hard but I know that it must be on her time.
Did she tell me the games came from this dude? No. It was an assumption. But a good one. She did tell S that the boy was 10. That is how old his son is.
How did it make me feel about the games? I did not make a deal out of it outwardly but inside I was a pi$$ed. You know the male thing. Gifts are normal for friends and family but this dude is not my friend. Not my S friend either. How does this even come about you know.
What do I think about this? It is low. To put that in my face. Here S mommys special friend wanted you to have these. Ugg. She did not say that but it is how I interpret it.
What if it were reversed? I would have said thanks but no thanks. We just had christmas and a b-day. He has 6 new games and we spend enough time playing this stuff already. You should take them to the pawn shop or ebay or someting and buy your S something nice with the $.
We were alleating breakfast the next morning. S was pumped about the new games and had one at the table looking at it while eating. I said we should write the boy a nice note to say thank you. S said or we could go see him today and say thanks. W said I don't think so. I don't know where he lives.
I could tell she was uncomfortable. That was very telling. I fully believe there is an A.
While helping S brush his teeth I saw some new perfume. It was expensive. The only perfume my W has gotten since forever has been from me. I believe this was a gift as well. Probably valentines. She was gone. We didn't get each other anything and it wasn't even mentioned. No happy v-day. No I love you. Nothing. I believed this to be the right move considering LRT.
I also noticed a parking pass for a resort in her car. The resort is 4hrs away and on the beach. The departure date says 2/06. She was gone to a meeting 1/31 thru 2/2. Don't know what to make of this. The meeting and hotel she said she was at is over 2 hrs away. That and the date on the permit expiring at a time when she was at home every nite is confusing.
The last time we had relations is 2/4. It was just business. Now I feel at risk for stds.
I can honestly say I have NEVER had an A.
We met in college. I was plastered the nite we met. I am suprised she gave me the time of day. I asked her out after a few more chance meetings. We dated alot for a couple months. No sex and I always treated her like a lady. I couldn't get enough of her. She stayed over a few times. She left one morning after a sleepover and I cooked breakfast. Then she fell off the radar. I called a few times and no answer. I got the point pretty quick.
I moved on. Saw her a few times on campus and smiled but that was it. I graduated and she was still in school. She called me a couple times out of the blue. I could tell something was wrong but we just talked and caught up. It was nice. I told her to call anytime she liked as I enjoyed talking to her. I never figured anything more would come of us. I moved and had no thoughts of her at all until about a year later she calls. She wants to meet me and have dinner or something. I was dating but no one in particular. I said thanks but I'm pretty busy. She says well call me some time. I didn't. But I thought of her alot. This woman was great. We had so much fun together. I was falling in love before. But she left me with a bad taste and no explanation. She calls two weeks later and asks me out again. I say yes and well the rest is history.
I found out later that the times she called out of the blue before she was being abused. Her new man would slap her around. She wanted to come running to me then she just couldn't make herself do it. I also found out that her father may have slaped her mom around. She has not gone into details but the next wife filed charges on him for it.
I have never laid a hand on her. I haven't shaken her, held her against her will nothing. My father was a great role model. I saw no bad behavior from him. He and my step-mom never even argued in front of us.
My mother,I have seen her abused by other men and her abuse them verbally. She was sexually abused as a child by her father. She turned into an addict and od'ed on meth before me and my wife ever met. I was 20. We had little contact since I was about 10. She isolated herself in the drug abuse. I never cried over it. I was already jaded and saw it coming for many years.
I dabled in drug abuse myself. Smoked pot daily from age 17 to 25.Grew out of it I guess. It no longer did anything for me. I haven't touched anything since. I do drink, not daily or weekly even. I don't get drunk except once a year on a fishing trip with my best buds. We all get pretty tanked on the opening night and sit around the fire talking bout the good old days and what happened last year and how life is going. Good times.
So thats more history than you probably wanted. I do love this woman. I wanted to spend the rest of my days with her. We are a good match as she has many strong traits that I do not and vice-versa. Through my research and reading this all has happened through no fault really. We both want, or wanted as the case may be, the same thing. Just communication breakdown and resentment has led us here. Reading "how to improve your marriage without talking about it" and "Mars and Venus" books as well as DR. So much makes sense about what went wrong.
