"Neither she nor my three stepchildren had the decency to acknowledge my birthday, that is straw that breaks the camels back for me. I am detached now, and am more than not worried about the outcome, my thought process is starting to mirror that of all my friends and family, that my best bet is just to pack up and move on. " --------------------------
Well, my SO didn't contact me on my BD, Christmas, NY, or even tell me the actual day he is expected home from an 8+ month tour from Afghanistan.
You know what? Christmas stung. NY was next and he had actually *told me* unprovoked, he'd contact me on NYD. Did he? Nope. But then my BD rolled around 5 days later. No word from him ever came.
I sent a pitiful email to let him know that it was still my BD for 2 more hours, local time.
After my Bd was I angry? YOU BET!! Did I say it was the last straw? Uh-huh. Did it help me detach? Maybe for a couple of days. When the anger subsided, did the detachement stay? Perhaps a slight bit, but not really.
I am NOT implying you're like me.
BUT
I just wanted to say, anger is good for helping one detach but anger, like many emotions fade, and as the anger fades, the will to try and save the M/R returns..
