VC, you have always been very supportive, thank you
The weekend has been great for me, I have seen loads of the kids, had some great contact with my wife, and its all been very easy.
Even my son has said that mum and I have been speaking more and she seems happy?
We have not spoke about OM since Friday night, she hasn't mentioned him so I haven't
She has been in touch a lot, mostly about the kids, but I'm being helpful if she asks for some help, I'm not offering anything, but just being there for her, and its gone very well, but really it always has?, just OM got in the way of things.
The conversation we had on Friday was total honesty from both of us, I thanked her for leaving me, it took that to happen for me to see the mistakes I was making, and to stop the drinking.
She told me OM was a nice guy, but that was it, she didn't think it was for ever, but was only living each day at a time, we spoke about holidays, and she said that although she might have went away with him, she would not go away with him and our kids?, not sure why, I didn't ask, but that does not sound the basis of a serious relationship?
My son has told me he didn't really speak to my son when he was around, so I'm not sure how serious this guy was either, although he told my wife he loved her and had never felt like he did right now?, so why was he emailing another woman!!
I'm just being there for her, and just mirroring her, I don't call her, I don't ask anything, I'm just there for her when she wants.
But as a big positive to me, we laugh a lot together, we talk a lot, and she has been very open to me, she even said that nobody knows her like me, and that we are good friends.
We even spoke about our marriage and our relationship, how we were best friends, enjoyed each others company, found each other attractive, and the physical side was always great, it was only the drink that was an issue.
She knows I'm not drinking anymore, so I think little seeds are being sown, slowly!!
Whatever happens, happens, good, bad, or indifferent, but its nice to have her as a friend again, I have really missed that, she has said the same to me.
Hopefully OM is out of the picture, and maybe, she can now see I'm not the drunk I was, but the man she loved.
