Where did my life go?

[sleeper]

IMO I don't think the mlcer is aware of the affects of their actions upon the LBS or the opinion of others of themselves (not that they would care). They're sick and suffering from a form of mental breakdown (not garnering sympathy, just stating fact).

Others notice what is happening whether they verbalized it or not (mostly not I think). One of my X's employees, who has worked for her longer then any other, said to me a few months post-bomb she didn't know who X was any longer and then added she wasn't sure if she even liked X any more.

A professional aquaintence of X and myself approached me at church months post-bomb while X was deep in OM imersion (at DS's baptism, no less) and said, "It takes a really big person to handle things the way you are handling them.

Point being I'm no "big person" but people notice what is happening.

Your X and OW aren't acting "normal" and you're not the only one aware of that fact.