read Sandi's post to you again. Maybe ask your w if she ever intends to let go of any of your mistakes....you have put up with too much and there ought to be a statute of limitationa on your "sins" and oh btw, SHE"s not kind to you.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
What if your W never gets passed what happened when you were drunk? She's held this over you all these years and continues to bring it up. But it's not just that one mistake, it's every thing you try to do and she cuts you down or discourages you from having any hope of better times. Can you live like that? If you knew she would never forgive you and if she never changed from the way she is right now, would you stay in the M?
I can't say much about the Move except you need to assert yourself at work and get out of Alaska. And stand up to your w. Don't tolerate the crap treatment b/c it's not attractive to be around a doormat
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it's confirming that you deserve it. You don't. No one deserves it this long.
see if you can find "Navy"s thread about being in the trenches. He's stuck in a situation where his w blames him for things he didn't even do...and it's a drag .
what do you think your sons think of the relationship they see between you two?
They have sensed the friction between us for some time.
they are watching more than you realize and may be glad to be at school instead...is that what you want them to think of m?
Good point. I want them to see a good relationship but that hasn't been for some time. But I would like it to be between their mother and father.
imagine life without her, but with you being happy...
what does that look like? Can you describe it in some detail HERE?
This is where I struggle. I have a hard time imagining a life without her, I suppose it is because we have been together for 22 years. I never had a serious relationship before her. I have no context for a relationship with someone other than her.
Not sure if I will ever heal, and will be very apprehensive to get involved with someone else. I have a very hard time picturing a future right now. I have no idea what to do with my time. I have been so engrossed in this sitch for the last year, I haven't really thought about my own goals and aspirations.
I have a great job that I enjoy, it keeps me fairly busy. I am constantly getting more and more responsibility at work. Financially, once the boys are done with college I will be fairly well off.
I think the thing I would like to do is go back to school. Maybe take a few years and get my master degree and then see if my W would be interested in a new relationship.
