I think having a MC who gives opposite advise from what DR gives, will cause you to be more confused. Speaking as a former WAW, I do not agree with your MC about spending a ton of time together with your W. If your W feels anything like I did, spending additional time with her right now, will do more harm than good.

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Sandi, is this feeling of "calm" a normal part of the grieving right now?


I haven't been in your shoes, so I can only go by what I've read. It may be that your mind more accepting now. Could be that you're worn down and your body is going into survival mode. And, you may be right and it's grieving the M that once was.

Don't worry about what you're feeling at the moment. If you're calm, then just go with it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!