Forgiveness

[antlers]

Antlers what happened to just backing off? Why all the machinations to control the results? I am backed off. I'm not asking him to come home, I'm not demanding that he come home, I'm just sending him an occasional text to let him know that I love him and am thinking about him. That's all. I'm not trying to control anything. He's getting into so much trouble at school that the school asked for a meeting with ALL of us, for his benefit...and it didn't go down the way the school had planned. That's all.

I mean, your son does not want to talk w/you right now and that seems clear. Crystal clear. He doesn't want to talk to his counselor either...she said that she's NEVER seen a child who absolutley refused to talk to the degree that he has, especially after all of their meetings. She's a LCSW.

I don't have a problem w/Figg's suggestion for a note to son, but just wonder what you're really achieving. My communication with him just lets him know what I mentioned earlier.

Get the info from the school and do what you can, get their help too, but
maybe stop trying to fix things with your family. They need professional help they are not getting,
and TIME. My relationship with my youngest daughter is going good. We communicate regularly and we see each other regularly. Relationship with son disintegrated after he lived with me exclusively for 2 and 1/2 years. Oldest daughter still ignores me.

THey do not believe you are a different man yet. Some of the machinations may support their perspective. Food for thought. What machinations? I have only done what the school asked of me. My youngest daughter knows how I am, and so does my son. Like I said...he's lived with me exclusively for 2 and 1/2 years. Oldest daughter and EX feel the way they do. I understand that.