Specifics, please! Can't afford telephone consult!

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In sticking to one thread, I will add to my story now. H has not seen S16 in 3 weeks and came to take him to ski over his winter break, helping himself into our house though i told him not to come in as I was not in his room he rented across town. He said he "would not be denied access to the house he paid for" (real ego he has). Of course, freaked my son out that he was in the house when he got home from school and they went to the airport. They fly standby (airline employee) and did not get on the flight Friday, so they came home and H slept in S18's room??? Totally freaking out my children (S18 at college thinks SUPER messed up too). Meanwhile, I left to go to our lake house with the cat and dog. Drove 8 hours listening to funny book on my ipad and cried and stopped often. When I got here, I texted him about how to turn on the water, hot water, etc. He said he was "surprised" I went all the way to VA to stay alone at our house. So success with THIS 180! Still no mention of money. If you read prior post, he has ideas that he deserves a LOT of money to live across town and travel with OW. I have made NO move to do anything (he wants me OFF his account for privacy or he is "going to open a new one" ...okay....go for it. I am not making this easy for him. I am just backing off. Is this right? Attorney and therapist say if he wants own account, get it. I see no mention of $ in DB posts or books. How do others handle this? Thanks!!!!