"May I ask.... how does one deal with the WAS being so.... mean? Or even just ice cold? How is a way to deal with them once loving you so much to them treating you worse than they would a stranger on the street?"
After the bomb- I had this revelation that *I* treated my H like this at the peak of my anger years.... it's heartbreaking that I did that and he stood by me.
As far as dealing with P treating you like that, you have to find the ability to 'rise above' it all and let it roll off your back. It's the hardest thing to do- but if you engage him in any way, it will get twisted around to be your fault and/or you will end up being the one with a broken heart.
So sorry you're dealing with all of this and the anxiety of his homecoming. I would say to find something that distracts you from these overwhelming thoughts.... but I know that *I* have never been able to completely get the thoughts out of my head- so I won't be a hiporcryt and tell you to do so! The best you can hope for are moments where you don't feel overwhelmed and don't succumb to the sadness.
Start mentally decorating your new condo, go to decorating websites and get inspiration! You were so excited about starting over in a new place- let that be your silver lining through all of this
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
