Antlers: I like Fig's suggestion and totally agree. We KNOW that your ex is not going to do the right thing. I can relate (as many others here can). My ex did whatever was "all about him". I could not count on him for anything and that included what was best for the kids. So I always did and learned to keep "zero expectations" of him. However - having custody helped. It's a shame that she still has so much hatred and resentment toward me that it continues to affect our ability to do the right things for the benefit of our kids. She's "moved on" and has somebody else too. It'd sure be nice if things were otherwise. I still have hope that they can be.
Get the school onside with you. Let them see that you are there and you are involved. Son needs to see this as well. Keep a record of what goes down. You might need that info in the future if you do have to go back to court regarding where son will live. I've communicated a bunch with the school. They know the situation. I've got all of the e-mails and texts saved.
Just leave it be with ex now. You tried to get her support. She is not willing. Just don't let son fall through the cracks of the school system as a result of his indulged behaviour. It was an honest attempt, with the well-being of our kids THE priority.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
