Purg - how do these things get settled in the military? Your H's superior thinks his own W is your H's OW? This is probably how wars start.
Can you court martial someone for being a numbskull?
Purg - taking this trip now shows how the powers that be are there to help us.
in theory, an officer might get courtmartialed for an affair, but it usually has to have an aggravating factor (like extortion or coercion).
Remember Lieutenant Kelly Flynn, the first female combat pilot? She had an affair with a married enlisted man (his w was also enlisted and said "how can I compete with HER?")
and the Army discharged Kelly Flynn with an other than honorable discharge.
In 300 cases I had as a defense attorney, I had ONE adultery case and it was sex in exchange for favors, AND very differing ranks, so there were aggravating factors.
Not sure about the two men working together but seems to me that it's more of an "inter office" morale problem than a career one. Purg you do NOT have to tell your h this for sure.
And if OW's H is Important enough HE can hurt your h's career on the Off evaluation report. That's his safest way to hurt your h.
I DO understand the OW's desire to get back with her h. She wants security and money.
With your h, she'd lose some of that and have to share her new h...and maybe her ex h too....
and I'm not quite as sure of her h's abuse--or at least I think sometimes HE was onto something b/c I seriously do NOT believe
your bf JUST realized she had feelings for your h.
Her h knew the truth before you did. Keep on going as you are, be the better choice but let him make it on his own...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
he's testing your changes to see if they're real or merely tactical. Still he may also just want you to earn money...
so figure out the "safest" (=not exposing yourself legally) way for you to show the changes are real.
He's watching you.
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
So I am now a firm believer that God (higher power, the universe- whatever you’re comfortable with) is in control of my situation. Look at the following events and decided if it’s coincidence or a ‘redirection’ by something greater than myself: - Original plans were to stop by her house at the beginning of my trip. Had to change it to the end because of something that came up on her end. - Supposed to arrive on Thursday. Had to change because I needed to be home a day earlier for my kids. - Because I was able to get there on Wednesday instead, I was able to see her parents because they were leaving Thursday morning for 5 days. - My check engine light came on at the beginning of my drive to her house, had to stop for an hour to get an oil change… about 30 minutes down the road I come up on a 5 car pileup on my side of the interstate. I arrived in time for dinner and we all enjoyed hanging out and chatting about my sitch, my health and I even shared with them my DB efforts (they were impressed.) Of course all of this led to how God has a plan.
Ok, going to try not to get too preachy, but I’m going to use the terms/words that my ‘father’ used when we were talking. I hope that some pieces and parts of this can apply to y’all and give you some guidance or at least a new perspective. Here’s his explanation and guidance for situations that seem hopeless: (it may jump around a bit, but this is how our conversation went)
When Lucifer (L) the angel disagreed with God and was cast out of Heaven, L made it his goal to disrupt the ‘free will of man’. God had blessed everyone on earth with free will so they could decide which path they would follow, although God has already created His intended path for all of us. L believed that people should be told what to do. God had also blessed all humans with an angel as their guide, L countered by also assigning a demon to each person. While these angels and demons are battling out in the spiritual world- We, the people who we interact with daily, are the side effect of their war.
God created, and therefore believes, in the bond of marriage. He will always ‘fight’ to save marriages. [I had previously talked about the ‘snake eyes’ and emptiness I see in H] When you are talking with someone who appears to have this ‘emptiness’, it’s because they are listening (in their heart/head) to the evil side, they have let that side ‘take control’. Our job, is to keep the faith for both of us, through prayer and daily actions- once we become stronger in our faith, it will strengthen our ‘angels’ and overpower their ‘demons’.
In regards to prayer, we should become familiar with verses of the bible (psalms is a good place to start) and actually use God’s words back at him as our prayer. If we do this, He will know that we are true and devoted to our faith- because we will have taken the time to understand his words. We shouldn’t think of praying as asking Him to intervene, but more as we are giving Him permission to enact His will upon us (because remember, He’s already created the path for all of us.) When we pray, God responds immediately. However, there is a delay in when we see this response because of that battle of our angels and demons in the spiritual world. Any subsequent prayers about the same topic, need to be directed at giving our angels strength to overpower the demons so we can see our response from God as quickly as possible [which is where our continued faith becomes important to give that strength to the angels.] If we continue to live a faithful life and be patient, God’s blessings to our prayers will become evident.**Most of the scriptures about prayer and God’s responses are in the book of Daniel**
He showed me an interesting video from Tony Evans that was based on the concept of spiritual warfare and the armor of God found in Ephesians 6:10-20. It goes into details about the concepts discussed above.
============================================= The next morning he prays over me, and honestly- I felt my heart race, started crying and felt really calm.
What happens that afternoon? H tells me about the possible investigation from OW’s H (read previous post for all the juicy details!) I’m beginning to NOT believe in coincidences!!
Only time will tell what will come from any of this. But I am really trying to get comfortable with the waiting, since patience has never been one of my stronger virtues.
Take what you will from any of this. I hope that I didn’t offend anyone.
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
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M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
