NLW, it sounds like you are clear in your mind about what you need to protect you. Good!

I don't see you as being adversarial, I see you as drawing boundaries to protect yourself.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss