I suggest trying to set a meeting up with the key players at school yourself to brainstorm about some behavioral interventions that you might try to help refocus son That's what this meeting was for! And she circumvented it. invite your ex...she may or may not show...but at least you will get some help dealing with your son's behaviors...invite the school vice-principal...counselor...key teachers...express your concerns...ask for help...give any facts that might help them relate to son better...open that door to communication...get everyone you can on that same starting page She was invited, and she showed. The "team meeting" was all about opening the door to communication between us all and to get us all on the same page as a 'united front' to help my son and show him concern. All of the key players you mentioned were there. They expressed their concerns and I expressed mine. They asked for my help and I asked them for their continued efforts. This meeting was supposed to do everything you mentioned in your post...but it turned out the way it did. don't paint ex as the bad guy even if she is and even if she doesn't show up there is no bad guy...there are only facts...son needs an adult to take some control...you be that adult I have no intention of making her look bad; my intention has been stated clearly in many posts here and communications with her. I'm doing everything in reason that I can under the present circumstances.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
