Personally, I wouldn't send her an e-mail. What would be the point? Would it help you attain your goals or just undermine them?
I too still "care" about my W, even though there are longer stretches these days where I don't. The other day, I got some stuff in the mail that she sent me, and I noticed that she had moved from one apartment to another -- preferably a bigger one so that she and OM could live more comfortably. (Not really sure, but that was my guess.) And it hurt, just seeing that little thing. But I took it in stride and moved on, knowing that the pain would fade. And it is doing just that.
I would refrain from "mind-reading" about what your W does or thinks. When it comes right down to it, you really have no idea what she's doing or thinking, so don't make any "suggestions" on no basis of fact. That's a dangerous way, my friend!
