Highly differenitated people have strong emotional bonds, according to the author of Passionate Marriage. In other words, hold onto yourself during conflict.
My W has been making breakfast for me on a regular basis. I used to keep my books on the kitchen counter, because I used that area to read while she sleeps. She scolded me for not be more inviting to her to sit together in the mornings. This is a change. I wasn't used to to her wanting to do that. I've removed the books, and only bring them back when she's asleep or doing her own thing.
I'm having some adjustment issues at work due to a new supervisor, who's been in her role for six weeks. She manages very closely and wants to be involved in conflict between collegaues or employees and clients, rather than guiding us to resolve it on our own. I've let my W know about the adjustment problems, as I've been bringing the stress home. This will be another R where I will have to "hold onto myself", and not let this person define or overly control me.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
