I couldn't resist after reading that your MC said..
Quote: ..that I let H do the pursuing from this point on because then I can know for sure he wants to be with me..
Hmmm, now where have ya heard THAT one before?.. Thats exactly what you should do.
Quote: Then my MC suggested I dismiss the D.
Not a bad idea, whenever you can release anything that your H can point to as PRESSURE, relieve it.
Not a bad laundry list, I'd probably put NO R TALK UNLESS HE INITIATES somewhere near the top. I'd be careful with number 5, at least until you get a sign that he wants to be treated in a loving manner, that can backfire big time on you because it can be perceived as PRESSURE and you want to release all pressure. You can be nice and respectful, but be careful doling out the "L" word or actions too soon. Last but not least, I'd replace #9 with START DATING and move it up the list a few notches..I say that not so that you'll do it to get him to notice, though he of course will.. , I'm saying that because if you want him to pursue you, you have a better chance if you follow the golden rules: ACT & BE HAPPY, Emotionally LET GO and let your actions suggest that. Start living outside the M. START DATING, shows you're not exactly settling for how you're being treated, maybe someone is more worthy. NO R TALK, and if he initiates it and starts in on whats wrong with the M, agree with his negative opinions ALWAYS. Give him space and again, NO PRESSURE.
No matter what you do, until he senses you're willing to move on if he no longer prefers the M, then nothing will change in his level of commitment. He knows deep down you don't want a D, and that you'll shower him with whatever he tells you he needs to see, and he can still live seperately, what a good deal for him, you're not going anywhere..whats the hurry??
Thats exactly what you should do. 
