My Sitch/any better ideas than going dark?

[labug]

You're addicted. You just need a hit and everything will be OK for awhile. Until...you start to get jumpy, feel like you're skin is crawling and you have to call or text her, just to hear her voice and then everything will be OK. Until the next time.

I think you made the statement that you aren't codependent. But have you read the book Codependent No More?

All I know is what you write here but from what I've read you are not even out of one relationship before you start another. And I quote: "I haven't been without a woman in my life in one shape or form in the last 15 years." It seems you don't take the time to really get to know the person or if the situation is good for you (a 35 yr old guy with no kids goes into a R with 3 step-kids, there's a match made in heaven). And you are immediately trying to fix her and her situation and her kids. Those are all laudable things but only if 1)They want to be fixed and 2)doing those things comes from the place of unconditional love. And that means you don't expect anything back for the giving of it.

Do you feel like you look for women you can save? Perhaps saving makes you feel better about yourself and perhaps you think if you give enough they won't see or won't care about whatever it is you don't want them to see.

Keep digging at the stuff that makes you uncomfortable because that's the only way to get rid of it. This sh!t is so ingrained in us that it sometimes takes a sledgehammer and jackhammer to get it loose.