"And he really is being a jerk. If he wants to be involved in weening the baby off the pacifier then maybe he ought to consider the affect his behavior is having on the girls when he pops in and pops out, leaving you to pick up the pieces every time. I'm glad you let him have an earful of the screaming and crying. He needed to hear that."


I agree with 2TP. Your H needed to see the reality of what he's doing to the kids. He can justify and rationalize that the kids are fine all he wants- but he can't ignore it when it's in his face.

I know how heartbreaking it is for you to see them suffer when he comes and goes. It shouldn't be your burden to carry, he needs to shoulder responsibility too.

Really proud of you for making new assessment of yourself and the sitch through your meetings.... I should try to get into one of those.

M-31, H-31
T-9, M-7
S-6, s-20mth
sep 8/1/11
ILYNILWY 11/29/11
Creating separation papers.
Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12
H moves out 1.20.12