David I've seen this situation unfold a couple of times already. Your W does not want to leave, but she does not want you.
Deep down something tells her she "should" stay. Yet she can't understand why. She has to get over her anger. You can't convince her not to be angry. She has to do it on her own.
Just be prepared because she can stay angry for a very long time. The anger feeds itself as she applies a negative lense to everything you do. Don't fall for her traps to blame you for everything. Hold your ground and start thinking where you want to be a year from now. Talk it over with the counselor and make sure W finds out eventually be strong and plan for your happiness. W then has the option to join you. In order to do so she must turn into the W you desire.
Just remember this:
"we get the relationship we allow to happen. What have you done today to get the relationship you want."
Sometimes this involves telling the person you love that enough is enough.
