Very interesting visit with mc today. We went through a run down of a typical conversation between h and I. MC said that h is very disrespectful when he talks to me. So I should from this point end the conversation when h begins to stall with info...ie., setting up dates with him, he wants me to almost beg to see him, never gives a time for when to come over, etc. So as soon as h begins to hedge with the info on meeting me I'm to end the conversation.
MC also recommended that I let h do the pursuing from this point on because then I can know for sure he wants to be with me.
MC says that h has been conditioned by me to know exactly how to get me to beg for anything from him. MC says it is not entirely my fault but that years of responding to h in the same old way have caused us to have this certain way of conversating.
Then my mc recommended that I dismiss the d. Soley to exonarate my conscience. This way h can be certain I did not want the d and it will be all his doing if it should go through. MC said that h needs to assume the responsibility for this since he is refusing to really work on the m.
Well I think today was very productive. So I have some goals:
1. Dismiss d 2. No more contacting h. 3. No pursuing. 4. End convos as soon as h becomes vague about dates or becomes disrespectful 5. REspond to h in love 6. I'm to be kind to h when around him 7. Do not get dragged into arguments with h 8. Validate his feelings 9. Practice concepts from Dr Laura's book "Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" when with h
So now off to dbing with a vengence! H look out here I come!
