Try not to pay too much attention to how your H greeted you. He is definitely facing hard times - you can see that clearly - and he might or might not turn back to you...
So have no expectations and keep working on yourself, and you cannot go wrong there.
I can't wait to hear about your experience with your good friends during your trip. It sounds like something profound and powerful happened there.
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D