Bklyn Queen

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I think your interaction with your H was appropriate considering his behavior. I wouldn't dwell on it another minute.

And he really is being a jerk. If he wants to be involved in weening the baby off the pacifier then maybe he ought to consider the affect his behavior is having on the girls when he pops in and pops out, leaving you to pick up the pieces every time. I'm glad you let him have an earful of the screaming and crying. He needed to hear that.

I wonder what it would be like if you were to stop by his place for awhile when he has the girls and then leave abruptly leaving him to deal with the girls. Would the girls get upset? Might teach him a thing or two. Just say'n.

WRT the email, I think it is fine. I would suggest making one minor adjustment.

"I have not mentioned these instances because I dont want it to feel like I am putting them in the middle. (Or should I say IAnd I also have not mentioned these instances because I didnt want to upset you. However, Alanon has helped me realize that it serves no purpose to protect you from the pain)"