7 Years in. Time to give up ?

[DavidA]

Time is not the reason. If I could see any possible positive reason that this pattern may be broken I would hang on as I have for the last 8 1/2 years. Obviously to long for a MLC by textbook standards. Thus my reason for pushing the eject button.

I put her in the "rocking chair" and gave her space. I provided everything she could need or want to survive. I made myself accessible physically, emotionally and financially.

We explored new ways to practice our faith and discussed how to propel our children into self support. She never allowed me to get close physically. I tried and was branded a typical sex minded male.

I understand that she has GIANT self esteem issues. I understand that she fears growing old and loosing her beauty and appeal. I understand that I am 8 years her senior and remind her of what she will become.

My values are as such that I would not give up on my wife anymore than I would give up on my parents, siblings, or children. This is why I have stuck in the trenches so long. Family is family, wether by blood or marriage. You don't turn your back on them no matter how bad it gets.... This is my teaching from many sources, thus my belief and how I have tried to live my life.

For these reasons and more I have decided to pull the trigger and sever the relationship. I will not live with an unfaithful partner for any reason... Married or not. Simple enough, time to move on.

Of course this saddens me, of course I may second guess my decesion many times. But in the end I will stay my course and move on. Don't worry about me. I have made my decesion and will stick with it and live with it.

Oh, enough for now ! Happy weekend everyone ;-)