Imagine how much less your typing finger would hurt if you could stop defending yourself so much, and drop the victim role.....
labug asked me what I was doing about it, so I was trying to provide context and explain what I was doing.
I shouldn't try to explain myself? What do I do in counseling? Is validating all I can do? What about when she says something that just isn't true?
Explanations and excuses aren't positive actions toward fixing any problem. Positive actions might include -90 mtgs in 90 days -calling your sponsor or another member when you want to drink -taking care of your son because you want to spend time with him not because you see it as W punishing you. -being honest with your IC -listening to your wife without your defensive filter -reading as much as you can-lots of books are brought up in the pages of DB -working to realize and accept that all this has very little to do with your W
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
