Separation, Moved back in, still ILYBNILWY Part 2

[tenbusrider]

Imagine how much less your typing finger would hurt if you could stop defending yourself so much, and drop the victim role.....

labug asked me what I was doing about it, so I was trying to provide context and explain what I was doing.

I shouldn't try to explain myself? What do I do in counseling? Is validating all I can do? What about when she says something that just isn't true?