Husband filed for divorce...is it too late?

[Womanontheverge]

Hi,

I am still new to the community so I apologize if I am not supposed to create a thread.

My husband told me in September that he feels that we should go our separate ways. I am still unclear as to the actual reason, but the death of his aunt sent him on a journey of finding himself and making major changes in his life. I guess I was one of them.

Before I knew what to do with this info ( I hadn't joined the group yet) I begged and pleaded for him to stay or badgered him about what the real reasons were. I don't think he knows. He has told me before that he was clinically depressed and I also think that he is going through a mid-life crisis (he is 45). He doesn't seem interested in much of anything and he has let himself go.

He didn't make any moves over the holidays, but on New Years Even he turned to me and said, I plan to file soon, I need to get this over with. He constantly says that this is something that he does not want to do but he feels that he has to (not sure what that means). I did less begging and pleading and really try to reason with him to no avail.

Fast forward to the end of January, he is off on a business trip and before he comes back to town he calls me and says that he is staying with one of his buddies and his wife and he plans to file the next day. I was devastated. I resorting to pleading again but that quickly turned to anger. I don't get it. What happened? He didn't file the next day, I asked him to go to counseling and he said if I could set something up before he files he would go. I set something up immediately and we went to a Christian Counselor who is also a minister. He was pretty much told that while his feelings may be legitimate (if not unclear) but how he was going about getting the issues addressed are wrong. He sat there and appeared to be taking it all in, agreeing with the minister (who told him that he needs to come back to our home) he didn't.

Fast forward to today. I got a solicitation letter from a lawyer stating that I may not have been served yet but a divorce filing was filed on February 10, 2012. I was devastated. I honestly feel like I don't know what happened. Is it too late for my marriage? I would like to contest it but I don't know how that will make me look. I just feel like I don't have a say at all in how this is going down and I feel like I deserve at least that.

Can you guys give me some insight/advice to help me cope?