This email was a way for me to say some stuff I wanted to say. I will put together a formal response over the next week or two to go over the specifics.
The comments about my H being reasonable are a way to stroke my H. I know my H tried to make a fair arrangement and he thinks he is such a great guy for taking care of us financially, I just wanted to reinforce that he is being so fair. Our official response will go through the details of his proposal with a fine tooth comb and pull it apart as needed. The above letter was more of tactic then an actual proposal.
I have felt so good today. I guess I am feeling good that my H handed me another bomb in the way of these separation papers and I handled it smoothly and rationally. I didnt rush off and send a response that was angry but it did make my point which is there is another way. I am sure my response will piss off my H but I am okay with that.
I also told a old friend today about my sitch and she said "Me and my H have a lot of issues too. I know how hard it is" That made me feel better, not so alone. Telling her was a good warm up for telling my scary, judgmental neighbors.
I am very hopeful that my H will turn this around I am just not hopeful about how long it will take. its gonna take a while and its so tough day in and day out.
Today is a good day. My girls are awesome. The weather is nice, we may even go to the park after school.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
