Another situation I'm struggling with....the whole separation for the most part is a secret. W and I discussed that we not share it with our friends and only a few members of our family are aware. W hasn't complained about our marriage to her friends or even stated we have had a broken marriage so it is hard for W to say that there are issues now. I don't know how to handle the situation and if I should speak with my close friends about it, many of whom are her friends too, or if I should honor her request of keeping it quiet. The most difficult part is that W has said that we can't speak about the child abuse so the marriage and our relationship must be the focus if others are to know. I understand that the abuse is not my secret to share....It's confusing.
